if our vows had been honest

20 years ago, we should have said: "I, ______, take you, _____, to be my cranky, fault-finding spouse; to push you to the edge of yourself, so you finally seek your One True Love - Jesus. With Him as our guide, we'll ride like happy kids, bouncing in the back seat of the van. So, let's promise to look to Him always, kiss and eat some cake."